Today some friends and I were discussing support given from our husbands/boyfriends when we choose or chose to go back to school or I should say the lack of support. To my surprise, many of my friends were met with little or no support from their husbands/boyfriends/exes. I sat and listened to each of them talk of the negativity, put downs, agressive behaviors, and total lack of support from their spouses. One friend shared that while she worked as a counselor at a near by vocational school, she often found wives who were either hiding their schooling in fear of their husband’s disapproval, or those whose husbands would actually come to the school and make trouble for them.
Many expressed that their mates did not like the idea of them ‘doing their own thing’. Or they questioned what their motives were by furthering their education. Whether it was to better the family, or to spend all his money on schooling and then leave. I suppose many men may sometimes feel threatened in some ways, or feel like they will lose ‘control’ of their woman, IDK. In my opinion, this type of narcissistic attitude is exactly what will drive many woman away. Some friends even shared that this was indeed the reason some of them split from long time spouses. I am sure these men lack self esteem and have insecurity issues. Maybe in some instances they are correct. Who knows.
I suppose the reason I found it odd that that behavior was so common is because as long as I can remember, everyone around me including my male influences growing up (dad, uncles, cousins) had expected me to go to school. Also I have never had anything but support from my husband when I decided to go back. He has never once put me down, or discouraged me. In fact he makes it possible for me to go to school. He is such a strong supporter, financially, mentally, physically. He helps me in every way he can, and the best part is that he has always done it with the upmost selflessness and sincerity. I also have the constant support from my mom and sisters who are always always there for me. But today I realized that I found a rare find in my husband, and I truly grateful to have such a loving supportive one. I can only hope that I can show the same amount of support to him in his future goals as well <3
If you do, that’s great; if you don’t, I don’t really care. Because everyone has a different mindset on things and opinions are just opinions, they’re not either wrong or right. If you don’t agree with what I have to say then whatever, but there’s no need to make such a big deal out of absolutely nothing.